2018-05-30

Feeling Duped – When professionalism goes wrong

Content Warning

This post contains topics of an adult nature (and I wonder why most of my search terms are about male genitalia!)

I would like to make it clear I am not a prude. If you have read my blog before, met me in person or know of any of my hilarious dating fails, this will come as no surprise. However, there is a time, and a place for conversations of a more adult tone, and images for that matter. You don’t expect it to show up in your inbox of Linked In, or from a “professional” in their field across another social platform.  If I wanted unsolicited photos of male appendages, I would go onto one of the dating site apps or just Google. It’s what we do these days, we Google it.

It’s bank holiday Monday. The day is hot and long. As I am enjoying a very nice afternoon in my local pub beer garden I get, not one, but two messages come through on Linked In. These were not your standard “Hi, I make websites and can do your SEO for you!” Or “I am looking for blogs to post gambling links on but you need to break all the Google guidelines to work with us, we don’t care if you get unlisted from Google – here’s  $500”.

These messages were chat up lines. Compliments, flirting. I casually reminded the men in question that this was a professional networking site. I then was invited to professionally deal with their erection which was sent to me via an image to my inbox. With no reply needed, though I had a few witty come backs I could have sent, I just blocked and reported them, putting it down to bank holiday Monday insanity.

Later that evening, a professional in his area, or so I thought, contacted me via Instagram and we were chatting. Nothing wrong with this, we had been talking for a number of weeks about creativity, developing your brand, working techniques, etc. It was a very professional conversation – with talk about cats as well.  He asked if he could video call me via Facebook as he had been working on a project all day, something he was very passionate about and would like to show me his work and hear my constructive feed back. I agreed and gave him my Facebook link.

What I did not realise is I had been duped. This was not a project, there was no creation he wanted to show me. He proceeded to flip the camera around to show him being pleasured by a prostitute! He asked me if I liked his “creation” to which I replied;

“To be honest, no. You are obviously not trying hard enough as you have not even got it up properly! So much for passion! See ya” and I hung up. I was a little rattled after that. I felt violated – if he had just been honest and said, “hey, want to see my *insert word here*?” It would have been a quick, no thanks and I would have just put it down to a male being horny. But to lie to get me to answer a video call is taking the unsolicited dick pic to a whole new level. In fact I believe I was the victim of a three week long build up to an unsolicited dick pic, this is a new level of the way some men think and something I am still processing.

Of course, I was sent various messages saying sorry, he thought I wanted it, it was only a joke. I sent a closing image to him which I think sums the situation up perfectly.

Reviving a dick pic from a guy is like my cat bringing me a dead mouse, I can see you are proud of it, but I'm not touching it

The man in question has since been blocked, but it has made me rethink the term “professional networking” and if I have missed the memo about where the lines of professionalism are drawn and if single men do think that this is a new way to meet women? Very ironic seeing as I spent the evening at a networking event talking about blogging. Of course, I still managed to end up talking about dildos and other taboo topics, so maybe it’s just me?

Have you got any strange stories of networking gone wrong? I would love to hear from you below.

Love, hugs and professionalism

V x

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